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Say It With Wax 'It's Not You, It's Them' black soy wax candle in matte glass jar, styled with cosy knit textures and flowers. Hand-poured, 220g, vegan-friendly with 35–40 hour burn time.
  • Say It With Wax 'It's Not You, It's Them' black soy wax candle in matte glass jar, styled with cosy knit textures and flowers. Hand-poured, 220g, vegan-friendly with 35–40 hour burn time.
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It’s Not You, It’s Them – Breakup Candle

It’s Not You, It’s Them – Breakup Candle

£22.00
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☞ Details

Hand-poured soy candle – 220g – Up to 40 hours burn time

Still overthinking what you said? Don’t. Light this candle and repeat after us:
“It’s not me. It’s them.”

Toxic ex? Flaky mate? Weird situationship? This cheeky little flame is here to remind you who the real problem was — and it definitely wasn’t your vibe.

"It’s Not You, It’s Them" is your post-breakup pick-me-up in candle form. Whether it’s for you, your bestie, or the one who finally filed for divorce — it’s funny, relatable, and way better than doomscrolling.

✨ Why you'll love it:

  • Customisable scent – choose the vibe (calming, spicy, sweet, savage)

  • Premium black glass vessel – looks lush in every room, even the one they moved out of

  • 220g of clean-burning soy wax – hand-poured with good intentions and zero paraffin

  • Vegan & cruelty-free – unlike your ex

  • Up to 40 hours burn time – because closure takes time

💡 Gifting this?

Perfect for:

  • Breakup boxes

  • “You deserve better” gifts

  • Post-divorce glow-up kits

  • Friends who need a laugh and a lighter

Custom name on the front. You pick the scent. We hand-pour it with care (and maybe a little bit of petty).
✨ Materials & Candle Care

Every Say it With Wax candle is lovingly hand-poured in Surrey using:

  • 100% soy wax – clean-burning, cruelty-free, and totally vegan
  • Premium fragrance oils – because basic smells are banned here
  • Natural cotton wicks – no nasties, just a beautiful, even burn
  • 30cl matte black glass jars – sleek, moody, and totally gift-worthy
  • Ash wooden lids – to keep the sass sealed in

Each candle holds 220g of wax, giving you a burn time of 35–40 hours (depending on how nicely you treat it 😉).

Candle Care Tips:

  • Let the wax pool fully on the first burn, no tunnelling on our watch!
  • Trim the wick to 5mm before each light for a cleaner flame.
  • Keep away from pets, kids, and exes.
  • Never burn for more than 4 hours at a time. Your candle deserves a break too.

Treat it right, and it’ll keep the vibes (and the fragrance) going strong.
📦 Shipping + Returns

Shipping:

We hand-pour and pack each candle with love (and a healthy dose of sarcasm) from our little HQ in Surrey, UK. Orders are usually dispatched within 2–3 working days—because good things take time, but not that much time.

  • UK shipping from £3.95
  • Free shipping on orders over £40
  • Tracked delivery options available for peace of mind (and nosey tracking)

Returns:

Changed your mind? We get it—sometimes love fades. If your candle isn’t quite what you expected, you’ve got 14 days to let us know.

To be eligible for a return:

  • It must be unused and in its original packaging (sniffing is fine, lighting is not)
  • Email us at sayitwithwaxshop@gmail.com with your order number and reason for return
  • Return postage is on you unless your item arrived damaged or faulty

Smells funny in a bad way?

If your candle arrived a bit worse for wear, snap a photo and drop us a message. We’ll make it right quicker than you can say “burn, baby, burn”.

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